What Men Want
If men were honest they would say the following. I am sure women think they know what men want, and I am sure they think men are so transparent and simple that they have them all figured out. Nothing could be further from the truth. Men are not simple, and are just as complex and multifaceted as women. It is illogical to think that because you have a vagina, that somehow you are transcended to a much loftier mind and being than a human with a penis. If you actually believe that somehow your breasts make you more than a non-breast-having human, then you have fallen for the oldest trick in the book, marketing of "women".
So, now that you have an understanding what's at work when you think you know what a man wants, you are broken down and suddenly realize that the whole notion that women are somehow: more intuitive, more nurturing, more sensible than a man is all hogwash.
Men are Driven by gender
This is more propaganda put out by your local police, city government and nation government. How can they make men appear to be driven by gender ? Easy, they deprive the population of gender , then turn around and put out scandalous information in the media / news that promotes gender .
No man, that is a man, is governed by the thought of gender . If you find a male, driven by gender , he is an infant in the brain and no man at all.At the end of the day, having gender may seem like an "adult" thing, but in reality, having lots of gender and constantly thinking about gender is a teenage thing. Once a man has become and actual adult, he puts aside gender thoughts and starts to think about much, much bigger things in life.
Do not mistake this point to mean that men don't want to have gender , which stupid people reading this blog sometimes do. The point is that they are not GOVERNED by the wish for gender . Sure, most everyone "wants" gender , but adults don't think about it 24 / 7.
Moral: if you find a male that always talks about gender or wants to have gender with you, that male has not matured into adulthood yet, or never will.
Men Will Do Anything for Women
Sadly, I am sure you women have already concluded this is not true at all. First off, some men, a very minor few, are gender so, of course they will not do anything for you. Secondly, unless the man is another immature brat, you cannot control him with your vagina. Yeah, so point one is starting to take shape? I know a lot of women that are with complete scrubs and control their guys with the threat of no vagina.
First of all, the very idea that you would think to control someone with them getting into your vagina is gender , to begin with. Now stop for a second. Think back to commercials, jokes, movies where you saw this in play. Even a silly comment like "none for you tonight honey". It indoctrinates you to buy into this gender notion: I can control a man with my vagina. STOP! Now if you read point one carefully, you know what I am about to say. If you can control a man with your vagina, he is not a man at all.
So manipulation aside, why do real men do things for women? It is pretty obvious. A human will do something nice for another human for only two reasons: they are a nice person [ which never happens in modern society ]; or they want to gain favor with that person [ even kids understand this concept of reverse manipulation ]. So, if you, the woman, think you are lording over someone because they do things for you, take a step back and realize what you do for them in return. Don't you feel obligated if someone does something for you? Everyone does. Isn't that how the dating scene is? It's like rule #1, do something for the other person and they will date / fall in love / marry you ... eventually. Trust me, it's a backwards notion, and a very immature way of approaching love. There we go again with the immaturity.
Moral: the very thought that you would control someone with your vagina is a gender notion. That aside, if you can control a male with your vagina, he is not a man to begin with.
Men Only Want One Thing From a Woman
Sadly, it breaks my heart to even hear women or worse, men say this. Again, only an immature male would say this. Men do not want gender from women, as the be all end all. If push came to shove there are plenty of sheep and goat in the world that men could stick their penis in. Remember that. In the 1700s there was a small town that was plagued with witch hunts. They killed so many women, as witches, that they had nearly none left of any decent age. The men took to having gender with sheep after awhile. Sad but true.
Men want someone that likes them, just for being them. What does that mean? That means, when he's 40, you don't get bored of him because he lost his muscles, or going bald or doesn't play basketball every Saturday. It means you love the person inside, not outside. Love is an inward thing, not an outward thing.
America is so caught up in looks, as opposed to overseas. Look at movies from other countries and you'll immediately notice that their actors are not as polished, porcelain, plastic as ours. So the entire fake look thing trickles down all through our society. When was the last time you went shopping for clothes and why did you buy the clothes you bought? That's the real question. Why do you buy the things you buy? Looks. So if a man gets signs from you that you're into him only for his looks, after awhile he'll treat you the same way. And, we pick up on that real quick. The couple down the road got a divorce at 40, because he said she got fat. Is he a bastard for that? Or, the truth is, she treated him like a trophy husband from day one so when she lost her looks, he moved on.
Moral: be sure the man you're with is not just into you for the gender . Why? Because he can get gender from anyone, anything AND it doesn't have to be a woman. Real talk. It doesn't have to be human. Real talk.
The Lowest Common Denominator
When girls get together they say and act one way. When they are alone or one on one, they say and act differently. Men are no exceptions to this. The expectations are totally different of course. The sad part is, as the group gets larger, everyone gets dumber. The same is true for women as it is for men. The lowest common denominator is the rule. Noone in the history of man, has ever been brave enough to appear smarter than anyone in a group they wish to be part of. Let me put that another way. To be a part of a group, everyone feels they have to belong to the group. So, they make sure they don't say anything to make them stand out. The easiest way NOT to stand out, is to appear to be smarter than anyone in the group.
So when you see a man in a group that you like and he acts like a douche bag to you, understand what is going on. He is expected to act like a douche bag.
Also, when men get together and the dumbest person only thinks about gender , all the men in the group will seek approval from the group by relating gender stories.
Another way and another aspect of this lowest common denominator is the "misery loves company" group. This is a group of men that will go out of their way to say and do the most depressing things imaginable to impress the group. Ever wonder why a guy who scratches himself or breaks something gets up and says "boy wait till the guys hear this". Well now you know why.
What to Take From This
At the end of the day, a man wants one thing. No, that's a lie. That what everyone wants you to believe. The reality is, a man wants a myriad of things:
- companionship till he's old and gray
- someone to share moments with
- someone who shares the same interests as him
- someone to take care of his household
- someone to take care of and have his children [ i know that sounds old fashioned but it is still STILL true ]
- someone that respects him AND respects herself [ being with a gender is fun when you're 17, but not when you're 27 ]
- someone to take care of [ I know, sounds weird, but a man still wants to be a man - me Tarzan you Jane ]
A lot of women miss the boat. On TV it seems that only cool people are on. The whole Waltons type of family is dead and gone off of TV, but the reality is that is how men want to live.
I hate to say it but, if you do not submit yourself to a man and allow him to be the man of the house, then more than likely, either you don't have a man or your relationship is doomed to fail. A man doesn't grow up and leave the house to submit to another father figure. At some point he has to become the father figure. If you're so caught up in this women's lib thing that you cannot see this, then there's no hope for you. A boy cannot be a father. I know many try, but ... yeah the proof is in the pudding.
At some point you have to be a woman to your man, and not a man to your man. Now that's just creepy when it's broken down like that. But, so many "modern" women are trying to be a man to their man. Honey, if that's the case then you don't want a man or shall I say, he don't want a woman. If you get my drift. LOL
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