Saturday, August 8, 2009

How to Fix Black Relationships

For Blacks by Blacks

The intended audience are only African Americans. If you are not the intended audience and you find what I say in here offensive, this is your opportunity, right now, to leave. No one is forcing you to read this, and I do not expect any disrespect due to you being insulted.

In this article I'm going to discuss the problems that present themselves within Black relationships. I will not mince words. I repeat, I will not hold back as to the facts, numbers and what my research so far has shown to be the problems affecting Black men and women today, in America. If you are hurt by anything said in here, I say take it to heart and look inside yourself to see if there's actually something about you, that needs to change. Because, something definitely needs to change.

Let's get some number out of the way right now.

1. 70% of black women are obese
2. the Black female is the most single person in America
3. 70% of black people are single, unmarried, without children

Ok I presented those brief numbers so everyone is on the same page.

In my previous article Top 10 Reasons Black Men Won't Date / Marry a Black Woman I listed 10 reasons black men have vocalized they will not date nor marry black women. The argument against the relationship seems, to me, to be one sided.

Black women have adopted causes that were not intended for them at all.

Women's Liberation

The single most divisive issue amongst Black men and women is the women's liberation movement. Black women flocked to this movement thinking it was intended for them. Their white counterparts invited them to join the movement thinking that the Black woman suffered the same inequalities that the white woman suffered. However, the Black man never treated the Black woman anywhere near the horrible way the white man treated his woman. The Black man saw the Black woman as an equal partner in the Black struggle from the beginning, that the first African slave landed on this continent. It is the Black woman who left the Black man by joining the women's lib movement. Mind you the movement has taken a very nasty turn, having been taken over by lesbianism. It is now something completely unwholesome to the furthering of a Black relationship. Heck it's completely unwholesome to the furthering of any relationship.

Please do not mistake the equal pay issue with women's liberation. The two are completely separate.

Black women did not need liberating from their black men. Black women from the beginning, due to the slave master dividing and conquering the slaves and breaking up families from the very beginning, had to raise the children, fathered by white slave owners, to the chagrin of their white wives. Imagine this going on, and Black men still took these Black women into their homes and made them their wives even after being raped by the white slave owners.

It's pretty much a slap in the face to then turn around and point the finger at Black men and say they are at fault for some reason. Black men have always accepted Black women, up until now.

The Inherent Problems with Black Women


The single most largest problem Black men have with Black women is: they are masculine. I know that sounds just ... wrong, but, that's what they, Black men, are saying. And, I totally agree.

"Why can't a man be a man?"

This is the tired mantra sisters put forth to try and switch the argument around. The reality is, the Black woman is masculine: acts like a dude. It is the worst characteristic a woman, who's in the prospect of some day getting married can have.

Black women are masculine:
  • the want to run the relationship
  • they want to be independent of the Black man
  • they want to boss the Black man
  • they talk over the Black man

White women's liberation never had these problems. White women's liberation was about political and financial equality. You see how the cause was never intended for you? Like idiots you took the movement way too far. And, because of it, you act like a man. What's worse, you then turn around and say why can't the man be more manly. You stole his pants, what more do you want?. Did you want to be single? If you don't want to be single, stop acting like a man. No man wants to date another man. Let me repeat, no real man wants to date another man or anything manly or anything masculine.


If You're not a Part of Us Then You're the Enemy

How did Black women fall so far off the wagon that they have turned on the Black man? What did the white woman say to convince you that the Black man wasn't being put down by the white man enough, that you need to beat him up too?

It is amazing that the Black woman has been right next to the Black man at the very instant they landed here, both as free men and as slaves. She has witnessed and suffered through the same atrocities that the Black man has gone through. Yet, now she acts as if all of that was a fantasy and the Black man isn't being put down, incarcerated, demonized, stereotyped on a daily basis. Today's Black woman acts totally against the Black man.

It's a sad situation indeed. Divide and conquer. Stop being weak minded. It's like in the Star Wars movies, where you'll see an in-your-face example of the weak minded, when the Jedi plays his mind tricks on people.

The solution

It's so simple, I'm sure you know what I'm going to say. Act like a lady. Go look up the definition if you're unfamiliar with it.

Stop dating worthless scrubs who are going nowhere. Very often Black women will date, or meet Black men who are on a "road to nowhere". Not only that, but they line up and take turns dating the chump. In the mean time, the Black man that's in college is being hounded by latinas, white women and any other woman with some sense. And, the Black woman looks up and he's a doctor with a White wife. What did you expect? I'm sure you've heard the saying "drop that zero and get with this hero". Stop dating trash. While you were busy dating trash for 10 years, the white woman has scooped up the best and the brightest.

"I love me a thug"


A zero you mean? Is that what I heard you say? Let me peep you to some knowledge. 99% of rap music is written by white men, with the intent to denegrate the Black race, objectify Black women, and elevate the worst in society. 85% of Black men have jobs and a home. The median Black household income is $30k a year. That means there's a whole lot of single brothers pulling in $30k a year and have their own home, while you're dating jobless zeros who live on people's couches. These stupid songs Beyonce sings, are not the reality of the black race. These ridiculous songs Lil Wayne sings, are not the reality of the Black race. Those are zeros.

"But they got money"


And they end up in jail and the feds confiscate all of their money and houses. Zeros!

Wear a dress. Be a lady. Stop dating zeros.

Asian women work just as much as Asian men. They have a 85% marriage rate. They have a median household income of $60k a year. Black women need to learn something from their Asian sisters. Oh and Asian women never joined the women's lib movement. They were aware that they were a minority and were very happy with their Asian husbands.

My hope is the the Black woman will read this article, become introspective and realize she is pushing away the very person she wants to be with, the Black man. We need to mend the Black relationship, get married and produce children. We need to realize that we are Black first, in everyone's eyes, then a Black man or a Black woman, and not the other way around. Black women need to love, honor, and obey their Black men. Black women need to nurture their Black men. If a Black man comes home, realize that the white man has beat him down all day long. You, of all people, should be the last person to try and emasculate him. The Black woman needs to mend and heal her Black man, stand next to him and be the lady he wants you to be.

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9 comments:

Anonymous said...

interesting point!

Anonymous said...

idk if the statistics are correct, 85 percent of black men have homes, no ,black men are the most unemployed and homeless in america. white guys dont write rap, thats nuts.u dont date black women because theyre ugly white women look much better. this is a fair country anyone can do anything to say that the white man is holding you down is making you fail before you try. its all about ambition

Anonymous said...

You sound like the dumbest black man on earth...u dont think black women get beat down in the workplace.....u r really a chauvanist ahole for saying all of the above gibberish....get a life....and stick to ur day job whatever that may be...cuz journalism is not ur strong suite.

Shakaama said...

it's interesting the anonymous feature is left open so that you don't have to identify yourself at all. As such people take the opportunity to lob their personal poop over the wall they have built up, called the computer screen.

Come out from behind your icognegro disguise, register, and then make your comments. I bet your tune will be a whole lot different.

However, next time you make a comment, how about pointing out exactly something you disagree with AND have a counterpoint *gasp*. Otherwise, you're just wagging your tongue to see who'll catch it.

PEACE!!!

Anonymous said...

this article is offensive on many levels. it plays on the stereotypes that have already been established by mass media. at its core it sounds like justification for black men to continue to use excuses why they dont and wont marry, date, or have solid meaningful relationships with black women. on the flip side black women have all the reason in the world not to want anything to do with black men because of their continued disloyalty and disrespect toward them and their own sons and daughters!!! Black men are notorious for honoring white, asian, latin and other non-black whores with marriage and committed relationships. from high profile people like lamar odom, kobe bryant, reggie bush, montell williams, cuba goooding jr,and tiger woods to your everyday blue collar and no collar brotha, all seemed to have succumed to the propaganda against his black women. even more disturbing is black mens willingness to be fathers to the children of those whores when he has 1-5 of his own with a black women. Not to mention his private or overt desire to be intamate with men!!! so when you really break it down there are complex calculated reasons why black women behave as they do and the solution to the problem is much more than just putting on a dress, not dating zero's, saying no to casual sex and having a job/career. it is up to black men every where to step up and look at his own reflection who is the black women and take an active role in healing one another so that health, prosperity, and power can prevail in their rejuvinated unity.

Anonymous said...

You neglect to mention that on several college campuses blk women outnuber men by as much as 6:1. It would be wonderful if the sex ratio were even, then your argument would be sound. There are simply not enough black men to go around excluding polygamy. Many black women spend months/years being single then give Pookie a chance because its been sooo long since they've been hugged. Statistically the better educated/earning blk men marry the least as they know they can play around to fifty and there will still be an excess of women waiting for a chance. They are scarce and act act like it. The solution isn't nearly as simple as a one page article. I don't think these problems are new as years back it was fairly common for Blk men to be married and have kids outside of that marriage. It was common for men not to come home for days. Read Black Boy by Richard Wright, same ol ghetto mass back then. the only difference is that you took it and stuck it out till he stopped philandering at 65. I talk to my grand and great grand it was the same BS as today except he was your husband and you did not divorce. I would believe the white woman thing too if and only if black men back in the days who were in positions of power didn't ALWAYS go after the whitest looking black woman they could find.

Shakaama said...

Well I have new data and more accurate stats. Most of the numbers I had before were... propaganda, data collected and handed out by people with a hidden agenda.

55% of Black women are married. 60% of Black men are married. The divorce rate of Blacks is 32% vs 39% for whites.

Why is this important? Because it means that the media concentrates on the worst parts of Black relationships.

Also, only 8% of Black men are married to white women. However, only 3%-5% of Black women are married to white men.

College campuses is not 6:1 in favor of Black women. Undergrad Black women are 10%-15% more than black men. This completely switches around in masters and phd level, where Black men dominate to being nearly 70% Black men. [told you I had more accurate stats]

It is said that a Black woman becomes more and more single as she gets more education. I think the conclusion is a lie. Here's why:

1. more Black women with college and post-graduate degrees are single
2. the experts conclude that this means a graduate and post-graduate degree makes them single

It's a stupid assumption at best. The only conclusion that you can draw is that, graduating and getting your masters is a taxing time of life, and those who go on to get a high paying job concentrate on that job. The same is true of Black men.

The difference is, when a Black man takes time to get married, for him it is a ceremony and he continues working. An educated Black woman who stops to get married, then has to completely stop working and have children. This is where a decision comes in: marry and have kids or continue career.

Anonymous said...

You're very dumb. You say: "Yet, now she acts as if all of that was a fantasy and the Black man isn't being put down, incarcerated, demonized, stereotyped on a daily basis." This entire article is stereotyping the black woman...yet you're mad at her for stereotyping the black man? I think you are speaking for the black man in quite a big way with this article. You complain that many are uneducated, however this is what the educated are doing with their knowledge and power?

This paragraph is all over the place:

"Wear a goddamn dress. Be a lady. Stop dating zeros. Stop being a whore. You don't have to open your legs for everyone that says you're cute. Say thank you and move on. If you get pregnant, you're the pregnant one, not the man. Get your own job."

"Imagine this going on, and Black men still took these Black women into their homes and made them their wives even after being raped by the white slave owners." ...so black men are supposed to be praised for not turning their backs on a woman who was raped? That shouldn't deserve praise - that should be normal.

"The single most largest problem"

"99% of rap music is written by white men, with the intent to denegrate the Black race, objectify Black women, and elevate the worst in society." NOT TRUE.

..."the very person she wants to be with, the Black man."

Anonymous said...

You're very dumb. You say: "Yet, now she acts as if all of that was a fantasy and the Black man isn't being put down, incarcerated, demonized, stereotyped on a daily basis." This entire article is stereotyping the black woman...yet you're mad at her for stereotyping the black man? I think you are speaking for the black man in quite a big way with this article. You complain that many are uneducated, however this is what the educated are doing with their knowledge and power?

This paragraph is all over the place:

"Wear a goddamn dress. Be a lady. Stop dating zeros. Stop being a whore. You don't have to open your legs for everyone that says you're cute. Say thank you and move on. If you get pregnant, you're the pregnant one, not the man. Get your own job."

"Imagine this going on, and Black men still took these Black women into their homes and made them their wives even after being raped by the white slave owners." ...so black men are supposed to be praised for not turning their backs on a woman who was raped? That shouldn't deserve praise - that should be normal.

"The single most largest problem"

"99% of rap music is written by white men, with the intent to denegrate the Black race, objectify Black women, and elevate the worst in society." NOT TRUE.

..."the very person she wants to be with, the Black man."

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