WHERE ARE THE WOMEN?

If you start looking at demographics of general things, you'll notice something glaring. WHERE ARE THE WOMEN?

• Driving - 90% men although all men and women have licenses
• Dangerous jobs - 99% men
• Competitive video games - 99% men
• Superhero movies - 70% men
• Movies in general - 60% men
• Out in public - 70% men
• Online - 90% men

So it seems strange that you have feminists claiming they want women to be a part of everything and that women are equal to men. But, where are the women?

Where are the women?

Well when you look at things women are dominant in, you also notice a pattern, and before feminism, the laws reflected this, although feminists wanted the laws changed, for the worse.

Video games - women dominate colorful, kidlike games that mostly do not require stress building, speedy reactions. Women dominate those games by a staggering 99%.

But feminists demand the competitive video games:

• - include female characters
• - reduce female attractiveness
• - place female characters in positions of power and dominance

The idea is that women will play the game and feel comfortable. But, this has been going on for 30 years and still women don't play the games. In fact, several attempts by different countries, have been made to create female only competitive gaming players. The never made it to the bottom of the competition. In act, when they actively placed the women in the competitions, they lost straight rounds, every time. Rarely has a single woman made it in competitive gaming, and qualified for a team.

Movies - women dominate the audiences of movies centered around love, drama, and romantic comedy. 60% of the audience is female, although they have the money and the freedom to attend it by themselves. If you find a man in a romantic comedy, there's a staggeringly high chance he's there with a woman. So if you removed all the male dates from rom coms, you'd probably have something like 99% female audience.

Equally sci fi and action movies are 60% male and if you removed the women on dates, it'd probably be 99% male. Understand that fantasy movies are not sci fi.

But feminists have demanded that sci fi movies and action movies

• - have strong female leads, although they don't fit in the movie
• - remove female attractiveness
• - remove all gender norms, even in historical movies
• - reduce the masculinity of the men in the movies, so that action heroes went from bodybuilders to Brad the store clerk type body

They complained that these movies, which used to have an actual 90% male audience, were too dominated by men, watching men in strong male lead roles. They made producers insert women in the movies and make the women action heroes, although the actresses were small dainty things. And, they forced them to kick and punch like men, trained by martial arts professionals, to make it appear as if a 90lb woman defeated a 300lb muscle bound man.

The storylines were changed from men being the protectors, heroes, stars, to men just being in the movie and systemically insulting men in their own movies, via the 90lb women. 

But again, the female audience didn't show up. And today, movies that do not have all that, and instead have the traditional gender roles, men as the heroes, score big at the box office. Even real women show up to those movies, alone or with friends, genuinely interested in seeing the movie.

House cleaning - women still, till this day, women dominate house cleaning and taking care of the home. At no point did any of the cleaning products, try to stop portraying women cleaning. Because, women are the ones that purchase the most retail cleaning supplies. (yes, men purchase the most commercial cleaning supplies, but there are no commercials for that) the only thing that's changed is the sponsors for cleaning supplies and home care has TRIED to get men in on the action.

Ironically enough, women now teach their sons how to clean, because they want their sons to be independent and not NEED a woman, because of the changes in gender roles that feminists have demanded. So for the most part, single men, coming straight out of their parent's homes, do not need a woman. For almost anything, and this is what their mothers are training them for.

But feminists... no... they cannot break the bond between the cleaning supply and home care manufacturers. Cleaning companies spend billions on advertising. The women are going nowhere. In fact, innovation and invention in the home care space (mostly by men) is the most excitement you have in this space. You can have a cleaning product go viral.

The space is dominated by straight, married, women. Straight, married, women are not affected, at all, by feminism. As much as the activists try, they have no interest. When it is explained to them, exactly what feminism is and does, not what they say they do, they have no interest and are offended by the very notion. Anything that comes in between them and their husband or them and their children, they want no part of and are very offended by it.

Notice that the straight, married, women that do go with feminism tend to quickly be divorced.

Arts & Crafts - it's basically just like house cleaning. Since, it's also not exciting to feminists, it is left alone. I've walked into cloth and sewing stores and have been the only man there for hours. Unfortunately they are closing down, since women being able to do things themselves is a dying breed.

The days of women watching the T.V. and seeing a dress or suit and popping it out the next day or two are slowly fading away.

So where are the women?

A lot are in school or at home. A lot don't do much of anything. They visit each other and "hang out". A few try to act like men and do things in a manly way, like walk around the street alone, hang out with the boys, drink, smoke. But, for all the pushing feminists try to do, women just are not present for the thing they are trying to push on men.

It's like the boy who cried wolf.

The feminists tell the men, "if you do THIS, women will show up and buy your thing and be happy." But they women don't show up and don't even much care about THIS. Even the idea of being a CEO. As much as feminists push for it, there are less female CEOs today than there were 40 years ago. And the current ones are quitting and retiring, because it just isn't important to them as women, as much as raising their kids. BECAUSE, most of those women are married, with children.

Women are just not interested in that stuff. That's why they are not there.

HawthoRNe Starts Tonight

HawthoRNe

TNT's Hawthorne begins season three tonight with "For Better or Worse." Christina (Jada Pinkett Smith) and Tom (Michael Vartan) barely get through their "I do's" before having to rush off to work because of a neighbor's car wreck. At the end of the day, Christina is beat up badly in the parking lot. Tom convinces Brenda (Anne Ramsay) to do multiple risky procedures to try to save their baby, though Cat (Lauren Velez, Dexter) refuses. The baby dies anyway, and Christina insists on pushing it out, rather than having it removed. Nick (Marc Anthony, now a series regular) hunts, and eventually finds, her attacker. With Christina down, Morrissey (James Morrison) immediately and permanently replaces her as CNO with Bobbie (Suleka Mathew). After learning Bobbie has accepted the position, Steve (Adam Rayner) decides not to propose to her, as he has planned on doing. Candy (Christina Moore) returns to the hospital and delivers her own baby.

HawthoRNe

The population of Richmond, Va., is 50% Black. It stands to reason that a single black woman living in said city, or even starring in a television show set in said city, might find herself involved with a black man, at least on occasion. Not that she has to, but it just seems plausible. No one bothered to mention that to Jada Pinkett Smith.

Let's retrace the relationship arc of Hawthorne: Her ex-husband and the father of her daughter is white. Cool. Her own on-again, off-again Dr. McDreamy is white. Pattern established -- but what the hell, it's 2011. Then, late last season, a new love interest emerged. His name (in real life) is Marc Anthony. Yep, that one. Granted, he's Puerto Rican, and that does swing the racial pendulum a bit, but we're not quite there yet.

While advocates of interracial marriage and dating might applaud the show, the impact the show has on completely absentee Black Men in the life of a semi-Black woman is quite apparent.  It tells little Black boys and Black men to stay away from Black women, because they don't want you.  Or worse, Black men are so inconsequential as to not even be considered viable as a love interest.  It amazes me that a semi-Black woman, who is actually married to a semi-Black man would not think to even bring the issue up.  I mean, she is the executive producer.  As much as Black people try to run from the fact that we are STILL second class citizens and treated and PORTRAYED as such in EVERY medium - news; sports; entertainment; politics; business; television; movies; magazines, they cannot get away from the inescapable fact - we have to rewrite our dialogue ourselves.

What Does Rewrite Our Dialogue Mean?

Black is Beautiful

Let me bring your clueless mind around to some clarity.  White people write hip hop, rap, videos, magazines, newspapers and books.  Any and all portrayals of Black people in those mediums are written by them and we are cast in the most eggregious light possible.  The only time a Black person is cast in any positive light, is when said Black person is a half-breed.  Let me rephrase that.  The only good Black person is a light skinned Black person, i.e. almost white.  We have no further to look than our very own sitting president.  Do you think in all reality that a Dark Skinned Black man, a pure blood, would ever receive the nomination, let alone win the presidency?  No.  Emphatically no.  There have been numerous Dark Skinned, pure blood Black gentlemen who have run for the highest office and were not even given a cursory look.  I can think of a handful of pure blood Black men who have run for office who were BRILLIANT and never got even the nomination in either party.  Yes, they were both brilliant and experienced and ridiculously awesome speakers. They gave speeches that would turn the heart of satan.  And yet, not even a whimper nor a sigh was heard from the electorate.

So let's return to what is dialogue?  Instead of putting these pure blood Black men in the limelight, white people parade the most egregious representatives of Black men possible.  We only see the Jerry Springer side show freaks as being "Black" on TV.  We hear curse words in "our" music - hip hop / rap.  Lyrics talking about how one guy is going to treat another guy like his whore or worse.  Lyrics talking about how one guy gets nothing but whores and all Black women are whores.  This is the dialogue.  What's worse is 75% of all hip hop / rap music purchases are made by suburban whites.  So the message of what is "Black" is being drunk by these poor white people who think that Black people act / think like this.  This is dialogue.  The reality is, noone Black even wrote the lyrics or scripts.


For use to not be labeled as "angry" "racist" "uneducated" buffoons, we have to remove such ridiculous people form the lime light and show the world:

• That a Dark Black man can and does love a Dark Black woman.  
• That a Dark Black man can and does have money and is smart with that money, i.e. not buying cars and houses he can't afford.  
• That a Dark Black man can and does own a business [ hello, you're looking at one right now ].  
• That a Dark Black man treats sisters with nothing but love and devotion and expects the same.

Black is Beautiful

Writing our own dialogue means that families like The Cosby Show [ a Black Doctor married to a Black lawyer with Black well grounded children ] needs to be the norm, and not the exception. Writing our own dialogue means that Black businessmen needs to be more seen and heard than Black felons. Writing our own dialogue means that we come to terms with the fact that the Democratic party has sold us down the river year after year after year. Writing our own dialogue means that we need to understand that if Black people are to get jobs, it's going to come from Black businesses, not the government. The largest employer of Black people are Black owned / operated businesses, and noone else.

Writing our own dialogue means we acknowledge that a Black man married to a Black woman has a much lower rate of divorce than any other racial group. Which means, this push Hollywood has going on of portraying interacial couples, is a complete and utter fairytale. For all of you sitting in the audience, saying "let people date whomever they want" you'd be the first one also saying, she shoulda known that wouldn't last. A Black man marrying a Black woman WORKS. Surprised? The most stable couple then is a Black man marrying a Black woman. You say too many Black men are thugs or are in / headed to jail? catch 'em early. I guarantee you the early bird gets the worm.

So Jada Pinkett-Smith's character doesn't want to date a Black man in a town that is 50% Black. The character is missing out. She obviously doesn't know what I know, and now you know.


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You're Not Playing Hard to Get You're playing Hard to Notice

Unattractive

So many girls are simply not taught by their mothers correctly of what the situation is in the dating scene.  Even worse, the father doesn't even mention dating to his little girl.  Sure some fathers go the opposite side of the road and try and scare the bejeezus out of the girl, telling her all sorts of horrific tales of how evil men are, but those aren't as common as those fathers who simply shut up and never mention anything.  In their efforts to keep their little girl from being hurt, battered, bruised or left alone, they end up leaving them to fend for themselves.  I mean, we're here to populate the planet.  We cannot do that by burying our heads in the sand and pretending the opposite gender doesn't exist.  So, we end up with a daughter that sits in a bar scared to death of some inevitable horror that will play out in her love life.  The end result is that she is miserable and whoever she "dates" is equally miserable.  Don't even get me started on those who got absolutely no heads up by their parents on dating, and thus went to MTV for their advice on how dating should be done.  Hello, Tila Tequila. [I followed her on twitter for about a month.  I just couldn't take how bad she is, and unfollowed her like a bad habit. But, you didn't hear that from me, cuz I ain't one to gossip.]



Speaking of sad, and the entire reason for this article, I see this tragedy play out all the time.  Girl sits at the bar, blending in with the upholstery, sighing.  Noone talks to her all night, and proceeds to go home and tell her pillow how there are "no good men left in the world."  She has a sense that she shouldn't be a total skank, so she tries to play "hard to get".  The problem is, she's not playing hard to get, she's playing hard to notice.

Let's be honest for a second.  For all the women out there that only attract bad boyfriends, look in the mirror honey, you're bad.  Like attracts like.  With that said, being afraid of attracting some horrible guy is not something that just happens by chance.  Sitting at a bar, hoping not to attract the "wrong" guy should not be your focus.  You should doll yourself up, lose the weight and be confident that the "right" guy will be attracted to you.

You have no idea how many friend girls I hear complain about how they never meet anyone.  I don't have the heart to tell them, it's them and not the guys.  I have no idea who would be attracted to hair that has never seen conditioner, a roller nor a highlight.  I have had grown women tell me there is no need for them to look attractive.  Really?  [Sigh]

Don't get me wrong, I'm not here to push the beauty industry down your throat but christ almighty, no moisturizer and broken straps are not something people need to see.  No, don't go buy the entire stock of the make-up counter at Neiman Marcus, but don't look like a sad puppy.

Some girls and women need to stop being delusional that they are playing hard to get and realize they are playing hard to notice.

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10 Things That Proves She's Not Into You

She's Just Not That Into You

While researching this topic, I perused many cute and anecdotal quips about modern relationships with women.  None of them had anything to do with the modern woman and how, through bad parenting, a complete lack of social skills, no finishing schools to speak of, women have degraded to the point where you have to weed out the scrubs.  If you're chasing some woman and find it hard to get a date with her, you might want to step back and review who exactly you're trying to chase.  I have come up with 10 things to prove she's not into you.  But, my list also prove she might actually be on the down low to begin with and is just trying to play a role to the public so noone gets suspicious.  Let's face it, being a lesbian is not accepted by everyone, regardless of what you see on MTV or t.v. in general.  The reality is, homosexuality is not a universally accepted way of life, in the real world.  Yes, I know it must hurt some people's feelings for someone to say that out loud, but we're all adults here, or should be.  I write some pretty boring crap.  I hope no child would read this material.  In other words, you could be barking up the wrong tree altogether and don't even know it.  Then, when you fail to get the girl, you beat yourself up, thinking you did something wrong.

This is the general consensus of the "... is just not into you," lists that are floating around.  They all say, somehow it is your fault the other person isn't into you.  Trust me when I say, anyone, can get anyone, given the right time and opportunity.  You could be smelly, old, young, fat, ugly and speak bad English, and still land a super model.  I've seen it.  I've arranged it.  Nuff said!

She's Just Not That Into You List

She's Just Not That Into You

10. When introduced, she failed to mention her name - this should be a huge warning sign.  Also this should prove to you that, this person has a lot to hide.  It is not enough that fake women give fake names and fake numbers, but if a woman doesn't mention her name at all, that's a whole other ball of wax.  Unless she's working for the CIA and is deep deep deep undercover, she should give you her name when you are politely shaking her hand and telling her yours.

9.  She leaves without saying goodbye or nice to meet you - this is classic douchebag mentality.  Having no home training isn't cute, but it could be a warning sign that she is ducking out, and not simply forgetting to be polite.  It would be one thing to be in a long term relationship and be overbearing and need to know where she is all the time.  But, if you just met her and she's ducking out, that's a sign to forget all about her.  At best she has no manners.  At worst, she intentionally did it.  For every douchebag female you meet, there are two sweet and polite ones just wishing to meet you.

8. She refuses any and all drink offers from you - this shows that she is most likely paranoid, and you don't need that sort of baggage.  If any girl refuses a drink from you, in general, you should just move on at that point, regardless of how long you've been talking to her.  At the very least she's telling you that she is not interested in a relationship with you and at the worst, she's a paranoid schizophrenic and might be an axe murderer.  Run!  If you are sitting with friends and buying them drinks and she refuses, you might want to ask her to leave, or get your friends to move to another spot with you.

7. She accepts drinks from you, but says nothing to you - really?  Are you that dumb?  GTFO.  If you buy even one drink for her, or even give her a piece of gum and she doesn't at least pretend to laugh at your corny jokes, it's time for you to get away from her.

6. You just met her and she asks you for something - really?  In this day and age of women's "lib", no woman should ask a man for anything she cannot get by her self.  If you just meet her and she's asking for something, she's a moocher.  If she asks, even for a drink, at a bar, run don't walk, away from her.  She's a user.  Or worse, she thinks she can use you.

5. She always shows up with a friend - it doesn't matter if it's a guy or a girl, a permanent friend, means she needs a chaperon when she's around you.  This does not send off warning signs, per se, but it could mean something a bit deeper.  If she shows up with the same friend all the time, it could mean that "friend" is hers and not just a friend.  You have to read the warning signs carefully.  Stop listening to what people say, "oh she's just a girl friend."  See what is going on in front of you.  She is a "girlfriend".

4. Noone ever knows where she is - it might not just be you she doesn't call or hang out with, her own friends might not have a clue what is going on with her.  This happens a lot.  The friends could be a warning sign that she's unwelcome.  She might not ever be around because her own "friends" do not want her to be.  They might simply be pretending that they don't know where she is, when the truth is that, they never call her.  Or, they could know she hangs out with her "friend" and know not to call her, nor speak about it.  Again, this is one of those, pay attention to what is going on around you.

3.  She looks like a 13 year old boy - this might be just too obvious, but I think some guys do not know.  You cannot know what you don't know.  If the girl has a high and tight, wears plaid, and boots are all steel toes, this should be a huge warning sign to you.  She seriously, not into to you... Hell, she's not into you nor your "kind", and, never will be.  My only regret is that my lesbian friends cannot refurbish an engine.  I really got the short end of the stick.  No benefit anywhere :(  [yup i got jokes]

2. She tells you, that she's a lesbian - again this might seem obvious to most people, but there are guys out there that think this is an actual pickup line.  Let's explore where this confusion comes from.  My lesbian representative informed me that girl on girl "movies" are not actual "women's" "movies", but the sick and twisted fantasies of some poor schlep who had the good fortune to be able to produce his own fantasy on-screen.  So let's fast forward to #2.  The girl tells the guy she's a lesbian and he reverts back to this "movie" that he saw with girl on girl action.  He then interprets it to mean his new found lesbian is in fact a fantasy girl and girl representative, in the flesh, come to show him a wild night out.  Now #2 doesn't seem so far fetched anymore, when I explain it.  Some people are just that confused.

1. She threatens you with bodily harm - this should be the number 1 sign that a girl is just not that into you.

Remember, all that glitters is not gold.  Yes some girls play hard to get.  Some girls play games with guys, just to test them.  To that, I say leave them in the dust.  If a girl feels she has to test you, then you should ditch her as soon as possible.  Why?  Because she's drama.  You do not need drama.  There is someone better looking, richer, can cook and drama free and is just waiting for you to come along.  Drop the elementary school chick and get with a real lady.

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There is No More Love in America

The Scam of Love

There is almost no romance on T.V. or in movies any more.  "Falling in Love", apparently now, is a 4 letter word.  The entire notion of the fantasy love story of a man and woman having a love so strong that it lasts, even beyond death is non-existent.  It has all been replaced with problems and problems, or gender images and graphic gender.  They portray love stories now as being problematic to get the point across that loving someone is ALWAYS problematic.  They seek to destroy whatever notion of happiness you find in another human.  Why?  So you can look to them for your happiness.

The national entertainment outlets always create love "stories" in the same lame format:

• boy meets girl
• boy and girl aren't perfect
• they obviously need changing
• problems
• problems
• problems
• story over

I want you to go sit through any 5 chick flicks in the past 5 years.  I want you to keep track of the outline I just set and see if I am wrong.  If you have been reading my blog for any time, you've seen my movie reviews.  I do not want to sound jaded or too cynical, but entertainment is now depressing and not fun.  Even kids' movies are not fun.

The entertainment now seeks to depress you to such a degree as to make you discontent with your own life.  You've been programmed that you must return to the movies to get your entertainment.  Having a dinner party and inviting friends and playing board games is ancient history.  [although I did just that last year, was great fun]  People are now programmed to think that going to dinner, club and the movies are the ONLY ways to have "fun".  The movies and t.v. for their part depress you to such a degree that it bleeds over into your real life.  Since they try to define what a "relationship" is for you, when you leave the movie depressed you will then seek out the problems in your own relationship.

"AHA, you did squeeze the toothpaste tube in the middle, this relationship is over."

As stupid as that sounds, it is oh so sadly true.  The movies present generalities about problems in relationships and people watching these movies take it to heart thinking it is a universal truth, and break up with their loved one.

"Why did she break up with you man?"
"I don't know, I guess we grew apart."

No man, she watched MTV or some stupid movie and thought that you checking your cell phone every 5 minutes was factual evidence that you were cheating on her.   She didn't stop to realize that your grandma was in the hospital with cancer, on her death bed.  So now you've lost your grandma and your girl friend all in one day.

I can guarantee you this scenario happens daily across the land.

Oh don't let me leave out the chick magazines.  When they aren't depressing women with evidence that they are somehow not beautiful for NOT having a heroin induced, malnurished body, they are telling them that:

1. something is wrong with their man
2. you can change your man
3. if your man doesn't listen to you, he's obvious broken
4. if the mail-room boy asks you out on a date that somehow he's a pervert and needs to be sued

The magazines defining women's lives is completely over the top and out of hand.  A dress-size zero woman is not good looking to a man.  End of story.  If the bones in her arms and legs are the largest section of that particular appendage, men will stay away from them.  Also malnourished women look like children, and only a man with a tendency towards pedophilia would like that look.  How many men have to come out and say they like big breasts, big hips, big legs, before females GET IT.  How many real life celebs with larger measurements become the idol of millions of men, before females GET IT.  Stop reading these stupid magazines that tell you that the anorexic look is OK.

Then the magazines set you up for disaster in your relationship, by telling you, you can change your man.  Yes, simply go out and grab the nearest man you can find, and change him.  Obviously, putting effort into finding a decent man FOR YOU, is far too much trouble.  Isn't that the message they are actually trying to say?  And, what human thinks that they can change an adult male?  "An old dogs does not learn new tricks."  It's not just a funny saying.  It is true.  If your ulterior motive in a relationship is to get some good looking guy and MOLD him into what you want him to be, then you are setting you and him up for a disastrous relationship.  Get off your lazy anorexic butt and go find a GOOD MAN.  And, if the one you find is not perfect, then you might need to change your notions of what perfect is.  Ask yourself, who taught you what a perfect man is?  I'm not saying go marry an axe murderer, but I am saying if he drinks beer and likes video games, that does not mean he is imperfect.  If you require 24/7 attention, the problem is with you, not him.  You be you, and let him be him.  If you're doing it right, you will "grow together."  If you go into a relationship with that open mindedness, then you will never break up / get divorced.

The magazines try to tell you what you want to hear.  Apparently, if your man does not listen to you 100% of the time, then something must be wrong with him.  Get rid of him.  That's the message right?  Let's see!   Movies and comics and magazines always say that females are "always right."  You and me both, know that is a lie.  If you do not know all the facts and details about something, there is no possible way you could always be right.  You need to wake up and smell the coffee.  They are trying to sell you something by flattering your ego.  Females are not always right.  Men are not always right.  Noone is always right.  If these magazines are saying females are always right and their men should always listen to them, they are setting you up for a complete break down in communication.  How?  Because as soon as you get it in your head that "I am always right," then that means you shut down when your man tries to say something.  You see how horrible that is?  And, you wonder why your relationships are rocky at best.

Finally, these womens' magazines try to get across that if some random guy invites you to dinner, that obviously there is something wrong with him and he needs to be sued, and the company he works for needs to be sued.  The gender harassment craze has gotten so far out of hand that it is destroying large segments of the populations.  Groups of  women are living completely single and wonder why, yet should any man approach them, they look for the gender harassment umbrella.  The UPS guy asks them out to dinner - law suit.  The pizza delivery guy asks them out on a movie - law suit.  The mail-room clerk asks them for their number - law suit.  They look up 20 years later, surrounded by cats and wonder why.  gender harassment was intended to protect men / women from some ongoing pervert inside the workplace that holds their career in the palm of their hand.  While your boss asking you out to dinner, one time, might be unethical, it is not gender harassment.  Sometimes people meet people they are attracted to and want to see if it is going to go somewhere.  You never know who might be the man of your dreams if you open yourself up to possibilities.  Sometimes the most unlikely sources are the best choices.  While everyone laughs at the mail-room clerk for hitting on the vice president, how chagrined are they when he gets a three million dollar inheritance from his dead uncle?  Or, the UPS truck driver that actually owns 20 routes and works one himself, making half a million a year?

These are just examples of how we take national media and let them define our reality, specifically relationship reality.  You should always hear stories from magazines, movies and t.v. as only applying to those particular people.  You should repeat to yourself, "that does not apply to me."  Even if your mother is trying to give you sage womanly advice and she went through problems, "that does not apply to me."  One person's heartaches and mishaps does not mean that everyone is going to have heartache and mishaps in their relationships.

I know of so many women that are man-haters.  When I hear their story, it dawns on me that they are man-haters because they were and are immature and did not understand that the trivial problem they had with one man, does not apply to all men.  Even that one man, normally, did not do something to them, to deserve full on hate.  More than likely, they were listening to another man-hater or saw a stupid movie or read a stupid magazine telling them that if a man does 'XYZ' that he deserves hatred.

I met a lovely Black girl, long ago, that I wanted to date.  She stopped me one day and told me that she does not like Black men.  When I asked why, she said because her uncle had molested her.  I was speechless.  I still am.  I can only guess that it was just an excuse to hate all Black men.  Noone gets something done to them by someone and then equates everyone with some aspect of that one person as evidence that they are all completely like that person.  It would be like saying, all men with mustaches are Hitler.  As I think about it, I bet my computer that that Black girl had some ridiculous mother or aunt tell her that all Black men are just like her perverted uncle and all deserve to be hated.  But, as sure as I sit here typing this, I know thousands upon thousands of women have similar messed up stories like that and are so messed up that they write off whole segments of the population due to something someone told them, i.e. movies, magazines and t.v.

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For Blacks: Black Men Like Natural Hair

Real Black Men Like Natural Hair

The Natural Hair Style

Turn on the T.V. and all you see are Black women with permed, blond, weaved hair down to their butt, fake nails longer than their own fingers, and boobs the size of basketballs, standing at attention higher than their own necklace.  They are just fake fake fake.  If we are to ever overcome the stereotypes hoisted on us, we need to first embrace that we are in fact AFRICANS.  I know so many people, I went to school with, at an all Black University, that would go into full pits of hell mode if you called them anything remotely relating to African.  The fact is, we came from Africa.  We are a transplant just like the white people so many of our lost sheep idolize.

By embracing our Blackness, we also need to embrace our hair.  We have curly coiled hair.  And, what is great about our curled coiled hair, is that we can do so much with it, unlike straight lifeless hair that other people have.  I have seen so many beautiful African godesses walking around with natural African hair that I've wondered at why any Black woman, worth her salt, would dare perm and damage and prematurely bald her own head.  It is a travesty.  And, for those that say it's easier to comb, you're not very good with math, nor finances.  Combing your natural hair takes no time, and no money, versus perming your hair takes a lot of time and costs a lot of money.

Black by Nature

The Afro

Black men, for the most part, who are self hating, love a Black woman with natural hair and nothing false on her body.  Heck, I've seen Black women without makeup that I had love at first site with.  No Black man worth his salt would ever tell a Black woman to perm her hair.  Men in general do not even think like that.  So who are you trying to get with permed hair?  Black men?  Yet, Black women complain they can't get a good Black man.  Maybe your fake hair is driving the real Black men away and you're getting the pick up a pie that's not that tasty to begin with.

Black women complain about their hair not growing.  It's not true.  First of all most Black women, in general, that I know and just happen to see, have zero nutrition.  They are severely overweight and eat crap, and i literally mean they are shoveling poop into their bodies and expecting miracles.  What Black woman you know that eats 6 helpings of vegetables, 5 helpings of essential fats from natural meats and poultry, protein from grass fed cows, meat free range chickens, and eggs from free range chickens, has bad hair?  None!  You know why?  Because she nourishes her body and consequentially her hair.  If you're as a big as a house, and eat fast food, or eat out in general, and don't ever cook your own stuff in a natural fat like butter or pig grease, how else if your hair going to turn out?  And, none of them take a raw food vitamin to supplement their already, crappy, diet.



A small percent are talking about biotin and other "hair" vitamins.  But, what they don't get is, if you're not doing the basics, like in the above paragraph, the biotin and stuff is not going to have any impact.  They murder their hair and kill their roots by perming their hair, then turn around and take biotin while eating fast food.  It's an exercise in insanity.  Trust me, if you eat real old south, home cooked meals, and take raw vitamins, your hair will have no end of growing out, and fast.

Ok now that they growing excuse is out of the picture and since we've established that real Black men prefer natural hair on their Black women, you have no excuses left as to perming and destroying your beautiful African hair.  Beyonce and Rhianna are not the role models you should be looking up to.  Women like Dr. Angela Davis, should be your beauty role models.

Let white women be white women.  Let spanish women be spanish women.  Let asian women be asian women.  You, be a Black woman, because there is only one of you.  It seems, from the outside looking in, that you don't like your own skin when you have a perm or wear a wig.  I'd prefer you put on a baseball cap, before you perm or wear a wig on your head.  Let the sistahs be sistahs.

And, I'm not the first Black man to say this.  This entire story, has been done by sooooooo many Black men.  And, Black women aren't listening.  I'm here to tell you.

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My Wish for Black Relationships

Time Out

Black people, we need to call a truce. On one side we have Black women mad. On the other side we have Black men completely leaving Black women alone. And, what's the end result? The steady decline of the Black home. Why? Because there's not gonna be a Black home. I've written about divorce rates being low in the Black community, but the marriage rate being low. I've written about welfare being low in the Black community. I've written about unemployment being low overall in the black community, yet Blacks being overly represented amongst those unemployed. The Black community is under siege and we need to stop this bickering. At the heart of this bickering is the Black relationship.

This is my wish list for Black relationships. I'm writing this just off the top of my head and from my heart. I'm going to try to understand every side of the coin... or rubix cube really, because, contrary to popular belief, we Black people are as diverse as white people.

Why are Black Women Mad?

What Women Really Want

What Do Women Want?

"He grabbed her by the waist, his strong hands pressing her body against his. He gently kissed her lips, slowly, gently at first, then with more passion with each passing second. Unbridled passion welled up inside her and...."

Do women still read this? Is this what women really want? Why do I ask? Oh, because that's not what I hear on t.v.. That's not what i see in magazines. I don't see passion and burning desire for each other. There's no perfect man for a perfect woman portrayed in the media. Let's see what the magazines would have you think women want.



"He sat meekly in the corner of the bar, adjusting the glasses that kept sliding down his nose. He wore a tacky jacket with plaid pants and smelled of garlic. He had a cute nerdy appeal to him though. She saddled next to him and nodded toward him. He blushed but didn't say anything. She took him home, bathed him and taught him how to dress and act. He now makes a 6 figure salary and gives her all the shopping money she could hope for."

Oh yes, this is what Cosmo prints weekly. They would have you believe that your man was nothing before you came and you are the one that can change him. You must believe it, because you buy it every week.

But wait, that's for the 30 something year old. What about the teen to 20 something year old? Oh here we go, the MTV crowd.



"He walked through the door, his Mexican mustache looking like a raccoon had a fight with a gerbil. His tattoos looked like oil stains and he smelled of patchouli and cheep must. She saddled up next to him and said they should go to the free concert together. He nodded. Three months later she was on teen pregnant show. Two years later she was famous for doing absolutely nothing."

If you think I'm being harsh, then you haven't watched MTV for 2 seconds. I've seen stuff on there that would make Ron Jeremy blush. You may want to discount that as just entertainment, but young adults see it and think it's OK, because it's on national t.v..

What do I think women really want?

Here's my scenario of what I think, a sane woman should want.

"She walked into the lounge wearing a pink chiffon dress with a slight train to it. A tall chiseled Black man asked to take her stole. She gave it to him and he smiled. 'I'm sorry we have no more empty tables available, but If you like you can sit with Alexander Washington. I hear he's a bachelor.' She looked at him amused. Alexander Washington, Atlanta's most eligible bachelor. She was seated in no time. At first he fidgeted across from her and kept checking his watch. She struck up small talk with him and he became engrossed in her conversation. He left her his card, and she gave him her number. He called 2 days later. They've been happily married now for 10 years with 3 beautiful kids."

What's the difference? No one is promiscuous; there are no escapades; there's no lack of education; obviously he's interested in her for her; there's no changing him and visa versa. While the media tries to get you to buy into the whole notion that normal is boring, you're steadily looking for Mr. Wrong. Mister Wrong is oh so very wrong. And he or she, will lead you down a path of destruction that you'll wake up from one day and realize that you have no escape routes.

I say don't buy Cosmo, unless you're doing a collage from the pictures. I say don't watch MTV because surely, as the old grandpa says, it will rot your brain.

You want a good man? Find a good man. And, if you don't find a good man for you, don't belittle him. Because, the man that might not be good for you, might be good for some other woman. And, now you ruined it for her, because you crushed his ego. Also, it might be the case that you found the good man, but the problem is with you not recognizing it. Clean yourself up first, then go look for the good man.

And, from my favorite line delivered by the Oracle in The Matrix, "you'll be right as rain". I'm sad she died, but I love that line.






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